Kissing is an art and it pretty much decides what your better half thinks about you. Kissing helps us judge potential partners and plays a vital role in a partner staying around, which means that it’s very important to be good at kissing if you want your girl or guy to stay around or impress them.
Here are some very important things to keep in mind so that the first kiss doesn’t result in a stalemate!
Setting Up for Success
Step 1. Make sure you have good breath! Nobody wants to taste garlic or other icky flavors after the kiss, as this can be a major turn off. Before the date or when you see her, brush your teeth and tongue and use mouth wash! To maintain good breath try drinking water on the date instead of soft drink. You can also suck on a mint or chew minty gum for a few minutes mid-way through the date.
Step 2. Flirt a little! This can help set the mood. Tell her that what she is wearing looks pretty; she will appreciate it! If she playfully punches you a lot or teases you in a friendly manner, then she wants you to touch her. Stay in safe territory like quickly grabbing her hand when you want to go show her something; she will appreciate not having to do the whole awkward looking at each other and blushing thing.
Step 3. Time it right. Getting good timing will make it a lot easier. A good time for a kiss is at the end of a date, when you’re generally saying goodbye, when you’re out for a walk, or after you’ve just finished watching a movie. You’ll notice that all of these times are pretty private and should pretty much just be the two of you. This is important! You should choose a private time for a first kiss.
Step 4. Ask! It seems weird because we’re only used to seeing the super charming people in movies kissing, but asking a girl if you can kiss her is a great way to show her that you respect her and care about her feelings. She’ll appreciate it!
Nailing the Technique
Step 5. Move your face slowly toward hers. This is a universal signal that you’re moving in for a kiss. This gives her the option to let you know that she’s uncomfortable and will help keep you from getting slapped. Don’t close your eyes until you are just about to kiss her.
Step 6. Try a simple close-mouthed kiss. Don’t use tongue the first time you kiss a girl. Make sure you close your eyes right before you start the kiss. Tilt your head. Move in sideways a little. If your head is just as upright as her, you’ll bump your nose into her nose instead of your lips into her lips.
Step 7. Move slowly and follow her lead. If she’s a deep, passionate kisser, she’ll hold your lips in hers for a long while; you won’t need to move your lips much. You use your hands. If you want, cup her face with your hand and slowly stroke her cheek with your thumb. Make sure you still have one arm firm around her waist or lower back.
Step 8. Be tender and loving. Kissing is like a silent conversation: You want to be kind, gentle, forgiving, and you want the other person to keep coming back for more!
Step 9. Breathe. You’d be surprised how many people forget to breathe when they aren’t used to kissing! If you want to keep kissing her but you’re having trouble finding a break to breathe, try moving away from kissing her mouth to kiss her cheek or forehead.
Be tender and loving!
Step 10. Stop when you’re ready. Slowly pull away after a few seconds (or minutes!) and open your eyes. Congratulations! Each kiss after the first one is so much easier. You’ve reached the top of the mountain. Congratulations!