Post written by Raena:
I was just reading in another thread on here where several people commented "if she has a child stay away from her, unless you have a child too, because you know there's a father around somewhere too". That isn't exactly what was said but it prompted me to make this statement to men.
Please don't be afraid to date a woman who has a child. I am that woman. Yes, I have a child. Yes, he has a father. No, he isn't in his son's life as much as I wish he would be. But please don't shun me because I'm a mother.
His father caused enough damage in my life. He ripped apart our family and left for some young skank. Does that mean I am destined to always be alone? Do I really have to continue to be alone because now I'm not "date worthy" material just because I have a child? It's almost like my ex gets to hurt me over and over again.
Why should it be that I only date men who have children also? Do you have any idea how much more difficult it is to blend children from two different families?
Single mothers want to be loved too. We aren't all looking for some replacement daddy figure for our children. I just want to meet someone I can love, respect and trust and who feels the same for me. I want someone for ME, not for my child. Yes, you'd have to get along with my child, and yes it does make things a bit more complicated, but I'm worth it.
It just pains me to hear that statement made. It really does. It's heart-wrenching to know that my little boy, who means the world to me, would scare anyone off.
Just putting my two cents out there... something to think about... Feel free to reply, with however you all see this differently than I do.
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