Monday, 11 August 2014
Meet A Family Of Two Where The Father Gave Birth To Their Children
Nick, 27, was born a girl, called Nicole, but for the last seven years has lived as a man. While Bianca, 32, who is a drag artist, was born as a boy called Jason, and transitioned to live as a woman 11 years ago. Both Nick and Bianca are now proud parents of two children but the funny thing is that while they transitioned their lives, they didn't change their sex organs, so the assumed father, Nick who still has her veejay carried the babies instead of Bianca the mum who still has his her rod but acts like the mother.
Nick and Bianca said they are preparing to tell their children when they get older that their father actually gave birth to them and the person that they call their mother is in fact their father.
Bianca, 32, who is a drag artist, was born as a boy (left) called Jason, and transitioned to live as a woman 11 years ago (right)
The couple met on dating site and began were both opened about their sexuality. They met in 2009, and they hit it off right away. Nick says:
'We talked about having children quite early on in our relationship because Bianca was thinking about having genital reconstruction.'
Nick, 27, was born a girl, called Nicole, (left) but for the last seven years has lived as a man (right)
While Nick and Bianca could have used a surrogate, they were reluctant because it's expensive. Nick says:
'We have a healthy sex life and we wanted a biological child - this was the only way we could do it.'
Nick fell pregnant with Kai in 2010, but struggled to cope with living as a man with a baby bump. He says:
'I didn't enjoy it. I'm a man and it's just not easy doing something so feminine, but I coped and we were both so happy when Kai came along. 'We always wanted Kai to have a sibling, and the second pregnancy was tough too. I had terrible morning sickness and I was really tired. 'When I had Kai I'd only recently transitioned, so I didn't look so manly and people just thought Bianca and I were lesbians. 'But, when I was a pregnant with Pax, people were really staring at me, which made me feel very self-conscious. 'I couldn't handle the whispering and pointing and by the time of the third trimester I couldn't leave the house. 'I only left for doctor's appointments. People are afraid of what they don't understand.
Unable to bear the thought of natural birth, Nick opted for caesarean.
'It cut out part of the very female process of giving birth. 'But It's all been worth it, regardless of how difficult it was.' Bianca did not mind missing that part of being woman.
Nick fell pregnant with Kai in 2010, but struggled to cope with living as a man with a baby bump
She says: 'I was very happy not to carry the children. It was great to get out of it - the inconvenience, the physical changes, the pain of birth.
Talking about their sexual life, Bianca says:
'We have the parts so we will use them,'. 'If we could change them we would, and they would be the other way around - but we cannot afford it and the children come first.'
Nick says: 'Kai always calls Bianca, Mum and me, Dad. 'And Bianca is definitely the typically clucking and over protective mum - in that respect we certainly conform to the stereotypical parents. 'We'll tell the children the truth when it's the right time - we've got nothing to hide. 'Our family and friends are really happy for us - not least our parents, because when we both came out as transgender they thought they wouldn't have grandchildren!'
The pair, who married in a quiet ceremony in November 2011, say they won't have any more children. But only because the two they already have are a handful.
'It's exhausting,' says Bianca, who still works as an entertainer, while Nick is a bar manager. 'But we love raising children. 'Having them is what I always wanted. I just didn't dream I would find anyone to do it with me.'