Thursday, 29 May 2014
6 Essential Early Stages Of Relationships Advice
Found this great piece and thought to share it with my readers....You’re in a new relationship and all things seem so wonderful! You may be feeling those butterflies in your stomach, you laugh at all your partner’s jokes, feel warm and tingly inside. This is the time that you truly feel and believe that you may have met the right one!. Maybe he seems to display all the qualities about what women really want in a man. But, we’ve also been there and done that.
All new relationships feel great, which is why we call it the “Honeymoon” phase. That phase doesn’t last forever. Your relationship evolves over time and you want to get off on the right foot. The following 6 Essential early relationship tips will help guide and nourish your relationship in the early stages with your new partner.
#1. Be Yourself
As cliché as it may sound, the best person to be is you. Most of the time when you’re trying to be something you’re not, it can come off as uncomfortable and unnatural; it’s a huge turn off for guys when you can’t even be comfortable around them. Be as genuine as you can be, and if he’s someone worth it, he will fall for your personality. If you’re going to be with someone, whether it be in the long run or short term, make sure you’re advertising something that is true. Don’t waste your time or his if you plan on being someone you’re not.
#2. Be Confident
Every guy wants a girl comfortable in her own skin and body. Showing your insecurities will only turn a guy off or scare them away. This has a lot to do with self-improvement as well. Before you allow someone to love you, be sure to ask yourself if you love yourself. Insecurities are something you have to deal with internally before you bring another person into the picture. Do not be afraid to make the first move. Girls, it’s okay to be the first one to start a conversation with a guy, just be confident doing it.
Be sure to know your intentions and his intentions. If you’re looking for a committed long term relationship, and he’s not, you’re just asking for trouble. Do not allow yourself to fall into the friend zone. If you have certain habits and regular activities such as smoking, or a regular card night with the boys, or going to Church on Sundays then you want to be honest and upfront and share with your partner things that are important to you and anything that is routine in your life. It is extremely important to communicate and be very clear about your relationship goals.
No one can read your mind and know instantaneously what it is you want. Make it clear to your significant other what bothers you, what you like, and what he can do to make the relationship better. This is NOT a one way street though. You have to put in effort and listen to what he has to say about the relationship and be ready to adjust how you behave for the greater good of the relationship. This also doesn't mean change every aspect of your significant other; it takes moderation and knowing what is actually worth changing. Remember, you fell for this person, don’t make them change who they are.
#5. Listen and Learn
Remember, you guys have only just started dating and are still getting to know every detail about each other. Have open ear and listen. It shows your boyfriend that you care and genuinely want to know more about him. Tell funny stories about your past, thoughts, and even hopes for the future. This is all part of communicating as well, but being in a relationship means taking the time to listen and learn about each other. Listen to him as much as you want him to listen to you and your quirky stories. ;)
Being in a new relationship, it might be easy to neglect the fact that affection is needed to show your boyfriend that you still care. Simple things like, hugs, kisses, and even a small text can make his day. The amount of affection you give him should be equal, if not more, that the amount of affection he gives you. It’s the small things that count, do not forget that.